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The Breaking Point
I remember the day vividly. It was a cold, dreary afternoon, and I was sitting in my room, staring blankly at my laptop screen. I had just received my test results for one of the psychology courses I had been pouring my heart into. My heart sank as I saw the grade – far below my expectations. It felt like a punch in the gut, and I could feel the familiar, creeping sensation of anxiety starting to take hold. “98 out of 300?”, “32%?”, I gasped, trying hard to breathe as I was losing my breath the more I stared at my screen.
I had always been a diligent student, striving for excellence in every assignment and exam. But this time, despite all my efforts, I had fallen short. My mind started racing with thoughts of failure and self-doubt. “What if I wasn’t cut out for this?” “What if all my hard work was for nothing?” These thoughts spiralled out of control, and before I knew it, I was in the throes of a full-blown anxiety attack.
The Anxiety Attack
My chest tightened, and it felt like I couldn’t breathe. My heart was pounding so loudly that I thought it might burst out of my chest. I was trembling uncontrollably, and a sense of impending doom overwhelmed me. It was as if I was trapped in a dark tunnel with no way out.
I tried to calm myself down, but the harder I tried, the worse it seemed to get. Tears streamed down my face, and I felt utterly helpless. I remember clutching my knees to my chest, rocking back and forth, desperately trying to ground myself. It was one of the most terrifying experiences of my life.
Finding My Way Back
After what felt like an eternity, the anxiety attack started to subside. I was left feeling exhausted and drained, both physically and emotionally. But in the midst of that despair, I knew I had to find a way to cope with this overwhelming stress and anxiety.
I reached out to a close friend and shared what had happened. Just talking about my feelings and fears helped immensely. My friend listened patiently and reminded me that one bad grade did not define my worth or my abilities. It was a small step, but it made a huge difference in how I viewed the situation.
Understanding Stress and Anxiety
As students, we often face immense pressure to perform well academically. The fear of failure can be crippling, leading to stress and anxiety that can impact our mental and physical health. It’s important to recognize that experiencing stress and anxiety is a normal part of the academic journey. However, it’s equally important to find healthy ways to manage these feelings.
Academic Pressure
The pressure to excel academically can come from various sources – parents, professors, peers, and even ourselves. We set high expectations and feel the weight of those expectations bearing down on us. The fear of not meeting those expectations can lead to chronic stress and anxiety, affecting our overall well-being.
The Cycle of Anxiety
Anxiety can create a vicious cycle. We worry about our performance, which increases stress levels, leading to difficulty concentrating and retaining information. This, in turn, affects our academic performance, fueling further anxiety. Breaking this cycle requires a conscious effort to address the root causes of stress and anxiety.
Coping Strategies
Over time, I’ve developed several strategies to manage stress and anxiety, especially related to academic performance.
Mindfulness and Meditation
Practicing mindfulness and meditation has been a game-changer for me. These techniques help me stay grounded and focused, reducing the intensity of anxious thoughts. Even a few minutes of deep breathing or guided meditation can make a significant difference in how I handle stress.
Physical Activity
Regular physical activity is another effective way to manage anxiety. Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters. Whether it’s a brisk walk, a yoga session, or a workout at the gym, moving my body helps clear my mind and reduces stress.
Time Management
Effective time management is crucial for reducing academic stress. Breaking tasks into manageable chunks and setting realistic goals can prevent feelings of being overwhelmed. I use planners and apps to organize my study schedule, ensuring that I allocate time for relaxation and self-care.
Seeking Support
Reaching out for support is vital. Whether it’s talking to friends, family, or seeking professional help, sharing your struggles can lighten the emotional load. Universities often have counseling services and mental health resources available for students. Don’t hesitate to use them. At EduTutor, we work with students who are either seeking hep to improve their marks or seeking to get ahead in the course by getting a preview of the next chapter or course. Tutoring can definitely help provide a great way to get support and to improve your mental health by giving you more confidence.
Self-Compassion
Practicing self-compassion is perhaps the most important strategy. We are often our harshest critics, but it’s essential to treat ourselves with kindness and understanding. A bad grade doesn’t define us. It’s just a part of the learning process. Embracing self-compassion helps build resilience and a positive outlook.
Moving Forward
The anxiety attack I experienced was a wake-up call, a reminder that I needed to prioritize my mental health alongside my academic pursuits. It taught me the importance of acknowledging and addressing stress and anxiety rather than letting them fester.
Today, I am more mindful of my limits and more compassionate towards myself. I still face academic challenges, but I approach them with a healthier mindset and a toolkit of strategies to manage stress and anxiety.
If you’re a student struggling with similar feelings, remember that you’re not alone. Reach out, seek support, and take proactive steps to care for your mental health. Your well-being is just as important as your academic success.
About the Author
Hi, I’m Eman Amir, a fourth-year undergraduate student at the University of Toronto, pursuing a double major in Co-op Health Studies and Psychology. Having grown up in Pakistan and completed my high school education in Canada, my unique educational journey has equipped me with diverse perspectives and experiences. I’m passionate about understanding human behavior, mental health, and the field of clinical trials. Outside of academics, I enjoy tutoring students of all ages and subjects, with a special focus on teaching high school Biology and Chemistry. Join me as I share my insights, stories, and tips on navigating the complexities of student life and beyond.